I have always heard about the law of attraction in terms of the book and documentary The Secret, but it never piqued my interest until recently. I always perceived followers of The Secret as people with the life goal of becoming millionaires and attracting money, mansions, and expensive cars, and these things are not in line with my life goals. However, after a week full of negative events ranging from physical illness to emotional turmoil hit me a few weeks ago, I went in search of answers to help me to get back on track. During this search, I came across numerous YouTube videos regarding The Law of Attraction.
At its very core, the law of attraction simply states that we attract the things that come into our lives through our thoughts and actions. We have the power to attract both positivity and negativity. I am convinced that I attracted the hellish week that I had a few weeks back with my own negative mindset. Every single thing that happened to me that week was something that I spoke into existence and propelled into being with the force of negative energy.
One negative thing that was the catalyst for other negative things that happened was that I have been suffering from an extreme form of PMS called PMDD for the past couple of months. PMDD brings on severe cramps, fatigue, and major mood swings. The pain was so bad that I was getting severe anxiety due to anticipating the monthly onset of the PMDD. It was furthermore difficult to control any negative thoughts during this time frame due to the excruciating physical pain that I was in and the mood swings that accompanied the PMDD.
I have been practicing the law of attraction in the few weeks since my last bout with PMDD, and this month I held firm in the optimistic mindset that I wouldn’t have the symptoms this month and so far, I have not had any pain or mood swings. I am not the type to believe in magic, and I am not even a religious person, but the fact that I have no symptoms this month truly amazes me.
Beyond things as severe as PMDD, there are many ways that we attract negativity into our lives without realizing it. A habit that I have dropped recently is my road rage. Something as seemingly normal as yelling and cursing at other drivers on the road creates negativity and tension. If you participate in this during your morning commute, what kind of tone do you set for the remainder of your day?
Luckily, there are many easy ways to attract positivity into your life. I, for one, do not believe that it is possible to simply have a positive mindset without partaking in positive actions. A positive mindset on its own is often a forced facade that can shatter easily at any sign of trouble. A positive mindset on its own has no foundation. When you perform sincere, positive actions throughout your day, a positive mindset is an inevitable byproduct, and as performing positive actions becomes second nature, having a positive mindset will be your default setting. Here are some easy positive actions that you can perform daily to attract positivity into your life:
- Express gratitude for what you have now. Yes, we all have our desires, but it is important to be actively grateful for the things you currently have in your life. It is important to not live in a state of lack. You can actively express gratitude through consciously listing things, big or small, that you are grateful for in your life. You can do this mentally through reflection or meditation, or by typing it out in the notes app on your phone. Some people even like to keep a gratitude journal.
- Watch your words. We attract and manifest negativity through words in ways that we don’t even realize. We tend to express things in the negative versus putting a positive spin on things. For instance, when we are running late for work we tend to say things like “I don’t want to be late” instead of “I want to be on time.” Although this slight change in syntax may seem insignificant, the former invites negativity, while the latter attracts positivity, and will be more likely to yield a positive outcome. In saying “I don’t want to be late” you are speaking your lateness into existence.
- Be good to others. Let people over in traffic. Give a few dollars to a person in need. Offer encouraging words to someone who is feeling down. Hold the elevator for someone. There are so many gestures that you can perform for your fellow humans that can attract positive things into your own life. Even more so, the people that you performed positive gestures for will be inspired to pass it on, which cultivates positivity exponentially.
- De-clutter your life. Anyone who knows me, knows that I can be a messy person. De-cluttering has helped me to cultivate more positivity in my life. I cleaned and rearranged my bedroom, threw out and sold some of my stuff, cleaned out my car, and I even cut the dead ends that I had been holding onto off of my hair. You also have to de-clutter your mind of bad memories, grudges, secrets, and gossip. Keeping your physical, mental, and emotional space clean and healthy, makes it easier to clear out negative energy and also shows gratitude for the things that you have.
There are many other ways to attract positive energy into your life, but these are the main things that I have implemented.
Many people’s main interest in the law of attraction stems from their interest in manifesting their desires. You cannot manifest while in a negative frame of mind. I have manifested quite a few things since I began studying the law of attraction. The main thing being that I no longer have the symptoms of PMDD, but here are a few more things that have happened:
- I was working on assignment as a social media coordinator that was supposed to end in May after three months. One day I woke up and told myself that I would be receiving good news that day, and on that very day they sent me the offer to continue on the project for three more months.
- I decided that I wanted to start back doing freelance writing, and I went into it with no doubts that I would get clients. I started last week, and I already have two clients.
- I have been attracting so many new people into my life, be it dates, potential friends, and even just the simple fact of my coworkers engaging with me more and strangers speaking to me more in passing.
All in all, the law of attraction will not make life perfect, but it does make the difficult situations much easier to deal with. I’ve noticed a huge change in how I deal with stress and anxiety. For instance, I lost my car key in Kroger this week and had to get it replaced, which normally would have resulted in major meltdown, but even in that stressful moment I remained calm and grateful for how helpful the Kroger employees were, and for my oldest brother who helped me fix the situation, and then I let it go.
I am so thankful for the difficult week that I had a few weeks back that led to my discovery of the law of attraction.